I once heard Paulo Coelho say in an interview that the idea of marrying the “same person” for the rest of our lives is wrong. Is that person really the same person when you married them 5, 10, 20 years ago? As time goes by, people change and walls are broken and rebuilt. We find ourselves better as the years go by or we discover things that change the way we had always been.
I think this is true for many things. It is arrogant for me to assume that a friend I knew a long time ago is still the same in the present. They probably have changed just as much as I have changed. For change is a constant and growth finds each person at their own pace and own way.
"When people realize they’re being listened to, they tell you things." - Richard Ford
I think the best thing we can do is to meet the other person where they are in the best way that we can…. and simply listen. I have a feeling this is going to be one homework assignment I’ll have for the rest of my life.
Finished making my first city guide on a website I found! If you have been following my blog for a bit then you might know most of these. This guide is most helpful when you click on the pins on the map to find directions!
Check it out here: First City Guide
I’m always surprised at how difficult it is sometimes to just return to the simple. How troublesome and illogical it seems to just strip everything away and hear what you’re really trying to say to yourself.
Maybe it’s fear, maybe a bit of denial. Whatever it is, there are times when it makes me mad that the little voice inside of me keeps telling me to just relax and go out for a walk… or when it tells me to just take a nap… or when it tells me to give my parents a phone call.
"No no no. It’s just not that simple!" I say.
"Are you sure?"
"It can’t be! A walk won’t solve any of this." I reply with conviction.
"But… it’ll make you feel better."
And it does. It makes it better. A walk outside, some basking in the sun, wiggling my toes in the grass, a swim by myself, a bike ride, saying stupid things with my friends, climbing to the nearest hill, a really old playlist, petting my neighbor’s dog, some stretching, drawing squiggly lines, grabbing my camera and just recording things in my everyday life…
These things are not just for people who are “artsy.”
These are nature’s free antidotes.
Here’s a lovely little song to give you a nudge in that direction: 강아솔 - 남겨진 사람들