Millionth reason why I love mother.
It’s no secret to most people who know me that my momma is my best friend and that I love her immensely… Just when I thought I couldn’t possibly love her any more than I already do, she knocked the theory down last night within two minutes.
We were out at a beautiful restaurant with two of her friends from Korea. I was there to show them around my area. Since it’s been 5 years since I’ve moved out of the house and situated myself here, my mom wanted me to be an evening tour guide to the beach cities.
While we were eating, my mom’s friends naturally asked me questions about my future career plans, boyfriends, my year abroad, grad school, etc. I answered all of them honestly and with a smile. And of course (as always) my answers sparked their obvious judgement a couple times.
Each time she stepped into the conversation and would say exactly what I wanted to say straight up. It saved me from being in the uncomfortable seat of having to explain the reasoning behind some of my decisions to her conservative and ultra fundamentalist friends. While my mom is a conservative lady in her lifestyle, I can always depend on her for wisdom in anything.
Her friends ended up switching the topic to the flavoring of their soups.
I hope I can raise my future daughter half as good as my mom has raised me.
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I once heard Paulo Coelho say in an interview that the idea of marrying the “same person” for the rest of our lives is wrong. Is that person really the same person when you married them 5, 10, 20 years ago? As time goes by, people change and walls are broken and rebuilt. We find ourselves better as the years go by or we discover things that change the way we had always been.
I think this is true for many things. It is arrogant for me to assume that a friend I knew a long time ago is still the same in the present. They probably have changed just as much as I have changed. For change is a constant and growth finds each person at their own pace and own way.
"When people realize they’re being listened to, they tell you things." - Richard Ford
I think the best thing we can do is to meet the other person where they are in the best way that we can…. and simply listen. I have a feeling this is going to be one homework assignment I’ll have for the rest of my life.
Finished making my first city guide on a website I found! If you have been following my blog for a bit then you might know most of these. This guide is most helpful when you click on the pins on the map to find directions!
Check it out here: First City Guide